I heard from Izzy's birthmother this week for the first time in about 6 months. I was so excited to see a message from her. After reading her message I was saddened to find out that her and teh birth father are no longer together. I know I shouldn't be too suprised but it still makes me sad because he seemed like such a sweet guy. I hope he is doing well whereever he is. Although hearing that they had split made me that much more happy that they decided to place Izzy for adoption. I still can't even imagine the love they had for her to be able to realize they couldn't give her everything they wanted Izzy to have. The birthmom "C" is so sweet. It was so nice to see an e-mail from her. She wished both Dh and I a happy mother's day and father's day. I hope she is doing okay. I am sure she has had a rough few months. I sent her a bunch of pictures via e-mail and I am going to send some to teh agency as well.
It is always interesting when I mention anything about the birthfamily to anyone of my friends that have not adopted. They immediately get freaked and don't understand why I would want to stay in contact. I don't think you can understand it until you have lived it. "C" has changed my life forever and for that I will be forever grateful. I have nothing but love for her and I hope she continues to stay in touch. I can see C in Izzy everyday, Izzy is a beautiful baby and she gets that for C and the BF! It is so hard to explain the bond I feel with them even if i will never see them again.
My thoughts and prayers are with them always
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I am so glad you heard from them. I agree that anyone not in our situations can't really understand why we want to keep in touch with birth families. My mom still tells me I think about Autumn too much. How in the world could I not think about the woman who physically created my daughter? And who made us a family? Not possible.
I'm so glad she got in touch! :)
My friends don't get it either......xoxox
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