This weekend was both a happy time and a very sad time for me. Friday DH and I flew to Texas for one if his friends wedding. His friend who I have met a few times has been through A LOT the last year and a half. He had a brain tumor (not cancerous) removed just over a year and a half ago and ever since has been rehabing from the damage the surgery/tumor caused. He has had to learn how to eat again, speak again and still has issues with facial muscles that haven't come back as well as some vision issues. He has been with his now wife for several years and after delaying the wedding once because his rehab was as far along as he wanted it they finally tied the knot on Saturday. It was an amazing wedding and the most beautiful setting for a wedding I have ever been too. There was not a dry eye in the house during the ceremony and their first dance. It was a wonderful occasion.
The other emotion i felt this weekend was sadness. When we landed in Memphis on our way to Austin I got a voicemail that said my grandfather "Opa" had passed away in New Jersey. He was 97 and I knew his passing was eminent but because we already had our trip to texas planned we went anyway not knowing exactly when he would pass. So the funeral was yesterday and I was not there. This broke my heart in more ways that I can express. Unfortunatley since we were in Austin the airfare (even at a reduced berievement fare) would have cost $1000 and I would have had to leave Austin on Saturday to get there in time for the funeral. As much as I so badly wanted to make the trip it really didn't make much sense. I heard the funeral was very nice and that all the grandchildren and cousins made the trip (except me of course) I sent my Oma a card explaining my sadness for missing the event and I had flowers sent to the funeral home. We decided that since we missed the funeral we would book a trip in the upcoming weeks to fly to NJ with Izzy and spend the weekend with my Oma. I know she will enjoy this probably even more than if we were at the funeral, but it doesn't make my guilt and sadness go away completely.
I pray that she is able to handle the grief of losing her husband of 70 years!!!!!!!!!!!!! But is she isnt' able to handle it, I hope the rest of the time she has left on this earth is good.
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I'm so, so sorry to hear about your grandfather. Having lost my grandmother this past winter (we called her Oma as well), I know how sad your heart feels. What a long, amazing life he must have lived. And I so love to hear stories of how long a couple was married, and 70 years is way beyond impressive. I agree with you that your grandmother will get way more enjoyment out of having you visit when she can actually visit with you. All my thoughts are being sent your way during this sad time.
You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. I hope that you all have a peaceful trip to visit your Oma. Not only will she enjoy seeing you all, but it will probably be about the time that she really needs some company.
I am so sorry for your loss. And so sorry that you feel so bad about not being able to be there. That has to be so tough. I know your Oma will appreciate a weekend with you and Izzy, though! Sending you lots of support!
I am so sorry to hear about your grandfather's passing. I am sending lots of thoughts and prayers to you and your family during this time....
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