Random Thoughts and Venting

Okay is Friday and have a million things racing around in my little head and I need to get them out I think.

Workout Progress
Well My class is almost over and I am so sad! I only have 2 weeks left! I have really enjoyed it and I am hoping I am able to keep it up on my own. I just wish i had a workout buddy that could workout with me the sames times i do. I am thinking about asking one of the ladies in my class if maybe they want to do it, although i think some of them are taking the class again. I would love to take it again (or a different TEAM class) but financially it is just not possible! I need to decide if i am goign to stick wiht the early morning thing or go back to going in the afternoons. I am leaning towards the early morning's at least Wed and Friday's but mondays (which are my one of 2 non working days) I may start goign later in the morning and taking Izzy, that way i can enjoy sleeping in a little. We will see. And there is some good news on the pilates front. I had doen teh demo a while ago on the reformer and loved it...but it is $25 a session so i haven't done it anymore...well my idiot sister in law (i call her an idiot for the second half of my post which will have to do with her) had bought 7 session and has decided that she isn't going to do pilates anymore and asked the gym if she could transfer them to me!!!!!!!!!!! So i think it is going to work out, I am just waiting confirmation from one of the pilates instructors but it looks like I am goign to get to do 7 free sessions because my sil is giving them to me (which is very nice and almost makes me feel bad for calling her an idiot....almost) So i am very excited for this because I really liked the demo. DH told me i shoudln't do it because then i am goign to want to do it more..........i told him, i already want to do it so why shouldn't i take advantage of teh free sessions even if I knwo that I won't get to do it after that. So we shall see...


Okay now on to my biggest issue right now. This is not a new issue but yesterday I think I hit a boiling point and had a bit of a breakdown/venting session to DH about it. Here is the abridged version because I could write all day about it. My sister in law is divorced (has been for 6 or so years) and has an 11 yr old daughter. I spend a lot of time with J, her daugther, I had her one day a week over the summer and up until recently i have picked her up from school one day a week. Izzy loves J, so it is always great to have her around because she is a huge help. Anyway, my sil is the most selfish irresponsible person that I know......and what kills me is I dont' even think she realizes it! If you ask her she says J is her number one priority...BS!!!! She has a boyfriend who treats her like crap, and she is beyond fiscially irresponsible! Over the summer J, confided in my about a lot of her feelings towards her mother. Basically my sil, spends very little quality time with her, talks non stop about her idiot boyfriend and the fights they have, is constantly obessing losing weight/body fat and her crazy diets and tells J way too much about what is going on in her money situation. This 11yr old girl knows more about money and relationships than I did when i was 20! Luckily J's dad is a GREAT father and a very positive role model for j. THANK GOODNESS

Well my sil had to file for bankruptcy last year because she was living WAY beyond her means and if finally caught up to her (here is the kicker, sh emakes 100K/yer +!!!!) So they lost their house and moved into a rental. You would think this would wake the woman up about making better money choices....NOPE!!!! She travels all around the freaking world with her boyfriend (most of the time while J is on vacation from school) and is so in debt to her boyfriend it is sick. She is spending several hundred $ a month on her obbesssion, fitness (she is 40 yrs old and is so fit she has less than 13% body fat...mine is 24!) She obbesses all the time about her workouts and now she has hired this crazy body building "coach" that she gets workotus and a meal plan from ...let me tell you the meal plan is RIDICULOUS!! All this obsession about body image is great for an 11 yr old......not!!!! Well yesterday I find out that J's dad had given her $20 to buy a new shirt she needed for her vocal music concert and my sil asks J, if she can deposit the cash in her account and put J's shirt on her credit card (the one her boyfriend got for her b/c she can't get one because of the bankruptcy) Well J, said she was really uncomfortable about this and was kinda unsure since it was her dad's money so J tells me that my sil, YELLS at her, gives her a guilt trip and then finally calls J's dad to make sure it is okay. She tells J that she needed to do this because otherwise her rent check would bounce by $5!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And here is the best part about yesterday, she picks Jessie up at my house in her brand new LEXUS that she had just picked up that she is leasing thanks to her boyfriend who knew some dealership owner that was willing to give her a lease, and the bf put $3500 down on it, so now she is even farther in the hole to him. I am still so mad about it I can feel my heart racing!
WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS WOMAN????????????????????????

The worst part is I can't say anything(and neither cna the rest of the family) because then she just isolates herself and I don't want to lose my time with J. There is a HUGE part of me that wants to call J's dad and tell him he needs to fight for full custody just so J doesn't have to deal with this crap anymore, but I know it would absolutely destroy DH's parents! I am just so frustrated! Dh just tunes her out and shuts it out, which may work for him but I am not capable of that , so last night i lost it, i was crying and just going on an on to DH! I know there is nothing i can do or say to change her but that doesn't make it any easier!