Well Day 1 of my bright idea to try underwear on iz was a TOTAL disaster!!!!
I had talked to dh about maybe trying underwear this weekend since we had no major plans other than a bday party next store at 3pm. So when iz woke up we took off her diaper (which was hardly wet) and asked if she wanted to get on teh potty...got a big fat NOOOOOOO
So then told her today she was going to wear underwear...i went up stairs got all her new undies out and told her to pick..at first she was excited but then she just stalled. Eventually DH helped her pick and put them on...which brought on a few tears but short lived. We then kept telling her to tell us if she had to go pee pee etc etc. Well we knew she had to go, but she would not go sit on potty...she went into kitched and peed on teh floor (at least it is not carpet).
I quick picked her up put her on teh potty and told her it is okay, this is what happens when we pee in underwear, you get wet. That is why we want to pee on the potty etc etc, encourage her to pee on potty ...she just plays and stalls and doesn't pee.
I then clean her up and dh helps her pick a new pair. Well less than 10 min later she pees again on the carpet! Same thing back to the potty.
Well i was getting ready to leave to go for a walk with a friend asked Dh if he wanted me to keep going with underwear or put on a diaper . He gets an attitude with me, I get upset put back on a diaper and leave the house crying.......................so much for that!!!!! Iwent for my walk and he took iz to the park in a diaper.
I need help!!! Is she just not ready yet or is this part of the process. She really will not get on teh potty seat when you want her to ....it has to be her idea. She has been peeing on the potty for at least a month. She only goes when she wants to go but if she wants to she will go. We give her lots of praise and she would get a stamp. She will always say I DID IT!!!! But all of this only happens when she wants to go not if you ask her if she has to go. She either will tell me she wants to go or sometimes if i am going i ask if she wants to go to and then she will go. Put rarely after nap or in the morning or any other time i ask if she has to go, or say lets go potty...the standard response then is NOOOOOOOOOO
I hate this potty training! I feel like I have no idea what the heck I am doing, I feel like b/c of my work schedule it is going to be impossible for me to be consistant unless i take a week off work (which i will do if i need to ) I also don't want to push her if she isn't ready. I really don't want to push her and maybe she just isn't ready yet and we should go back to letting her go when she wants to but not push it and try again in another month. I don't know!!! HELP HELP HELP!!!!!
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I can only give you advice based on what's worked for us, and as you know full well, each kid is different.
T never would go on the potty of her own accord. We had the potty chair sitting out for months, and I always suggested she try it, and it was always "No!". So when I decided that I was going to "push" a little, the first few days were much like what you described. I would take T to the potty knowing she needed to go, and she would arch her back or flop around like a fish and do anything but sit. I figured she was just testing me, and I kind of "fought" back by continually telling her she needed to use the potty and keep her underwear dry.
Still, one week later, when I wake her from a nap to take her diaper off and put back on her underwear, she has a fit and cries "diaper on, diaper on". But I more or less wrestle with her, put her underwear on, and the meltdown is over within 5 - 10 minutes.
I put three different "potty" books for her in the bathroom that we read whenever we went in. When we first started, all she wanted to do was sit on the potty and play. One afternoon we were in there for an hour! I then later read that you just have to pick them up and say "We'll come back later when your body is ready to go pee-pee". It's started to work, and we usually aren't in the bathroom too long unless we are out and about and it's a new setting.
Also, the new Pez dispenser really worked for us. It was a special little toy for us, and she loved that she got a candy in it after she went potty.
I read on Dr. Phil (don't ask, my mom directed me there), that they recommend getting a baby doll that wets and putting it on the potty chair and having a big "party" after the doll goes. We didn't try this, but I can understand the concept a bit.
I also read that they say it should just be one parent that does the potty training to start. Not sure where they were going with this exactly, but maybe it's to help build confidence for the kid?
We were definitely house bound for the first several days. Now each day I make small trips. It still stinks, but we are working through it and I think finally are closer to being away from diapers than back in diapers.
If you want, I can bring T over and Izzy can see T use the big girl potty and that might be a bit of incentive for her too.
Hang in there! It will all come in time. And remember, she won't be going to Kindergarden in diapers. I have a friend who's daughter is just now potty training, and she's almost 3.5. So it's each child's own schedule, I believe, but also with a little push from the parents.
Oh, I also read that after attempting potty training and if both parent and child are too frustrated, stop for a month and then try again. Kind of lets things reset in the time off.
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